Reshaping A Measured Life

Hello my lovely readers! My hiatus has lasted quite a bit longer than I anticipated, but I needed it. I’ve taken some time to sit down, reflect, and really evaluate what I want this blog to be. I truly do want to continue talking about healthy living, but over the last year or so I’ve pulled back from sharing personal things due to the ending of a relationship and learning to live alone. Cooking for one person can be much harder than cooking for two, and I’ve been working on adjusting to that and learning new ways of time management.

This Blog Is A Changin’

Things will be a little different around here from now on. I’m going to increase the amount of personal entries and mental health talk while continuing to write recipes and talk exercise. I’m going to stop worrying about what new readers want to read and I’m going to write what I want to write. I’ll probably talk more about makeup, too, since I love it so much. This blog is going to be about ME. I think I need that.

You’ll also notice I’ve updated the look of the site. It was starting to feel really dated and I really needed a fresh, new look. I’ll be tweaking it some more to make it a bit more functional but I’m really liking the new neutral theme.

I haven’t fully recovered my zest for blogging, but I can feel it coming. I’m thinking about new recipes, I just need to make sure I don’t pressure myself to perform too much and get myself back into the state where it feels like a chore. This is a form of self care for me, and I hope you’ll come along on this ride. There’s going to be a lot more mental health talk around here, because that’s a part of being measured, and it’s a part of ME.

New Projects

I’ve been wanting to do my own A Measured Life podcast for years now, and I’ve learned  a lot about writing and recording shows in the last year. I’m going to be working on a solo AML show: short, easy to digest episodes that focus on a topic related to living a more measured life. Each episode will be about food, fitness, frugality and feeling good. I’m writing episodes and the only big step now is figuring out hosting services. I can (and WILL) do this!

Update On My Mental State

I’m learning a lot about myself these days, which is a good thing for sure.

Writing It Out

I’m really bad at asking for space. There will be this voice in my head telling me how lovely it would be to have some quiet time where I don’t have to interact with anyone, where I can accomplish chores that are piling up or sit down and write out my feelings and process them. But my lizard brain, the deep rooted instinctual part of the brain that controls the fight or flight function, tells me that if I take distance from those I care about, they’ll be unhappy or decide I’m not worth the wait. I become clingy and desperate in these times, and I sacrifice my mental health to spend time with those I love. This might seem like a selfless good thing, the act of ignoring my own feelings for those I care about, but in truth it’s ridiculously selfish.

This week I’ve been ignoring those signs right and left. I’ve been feeling the weight of depression seeping into my bones and instead of doing what’s best for me (pulling back and allowing myself time to reflect on why these feelings have cropped up) I force social interactions or distract myself with a cell phone game or my favorite tv show. In these times, I need to listen to the voice in my brain that tells me to turn off all media (tv, radio, cell phone) and sit down and WRITE IT OUT. I won’t be gone forever, probably just a couple of hours at most, and my friends and loved ones will still be there for me when I get back. And if they aren’t… well… then they weren’t great friends to begin with.

Experiencing Isolation

The other state I sometimes find myself in is this melancholy that blankets me when I have a day with limited social interaction. It’s usually a weekend day filled with chores and cooking with no one else around except via text. I find I tend to avoid superficial social interactions on these days: I do my chores in a state of feeling entirely isolated from the other people buying groceries or browsing at Target. I shy away from looking into strangers’ faces and try to be as invisible as possible.

I haven’t quite figured out the best way to cope with these days: I feel needy and want attention and reassurance but I doubt that this would actually fix the issue. Perhaps the best idea in this case is to do something productive where I can succeed and feel a sense of accomplishment. Sometimes I get struck by the idea that I have no true purpose in life: that the fact that I’m a 37 year old woman single woman with no kids and no real career means I’m living for nothing. That’s fatalistic thinking, though. I DO have a purpose. My ultimate purpose is to share what I’ve learned about myself with the world in hopes that someone else will get something positive from it. To help someone somewhere, maybe someone I’ve never met, feel less alone in this world. To help someone learn more about themselves and to grow.

Depression

I’m working through a depression right now, but I’m taking the necessary steps for self care. Self care is so important, and I have a habit of getting involved in things, things that make me happy. And when I’m happy it’s hard to recognize that I’m stressed and need to step back. That it’s okay to not stay elated 24/7. That the lows that follow the good times are okay.

I’m going to spend this time working on me, and personal projects, and try to find joy and pleasure in these things again. The fact that I’m even here is a huge step in the right direction. I hope enough of you are still here that we can grow together as I roll AML over into a new (and hopefully improved) phase of life.

I’d love to hear from you, some words of encouragement will go a long way right now.

Tata for now!

I Did A Thing!

Hey everyone! Way back in October I guested on the amazing Braless Podcast. I had an amazing time talking with Erin: we talked about books, food, music and strong opinions. Hope you give the Braless Podcast a listen, it’s so much fun!

http://bralesspodcast.libsyn.com/scrapple-of-the-south-39

Tutorial: Rolling Kitchen Cart

For those of you that don’t know, The Hubs and I live in an apartment. We’ve been here for 8 years, and while we have a decent sized eat-in kitchen (10 1/2 x 10 1/2 feet), the counter space is minimal at best. I’ve spent 8 years working on a 30″ square piece of countertop to make the delicious recipes I show you here. Well, after 8 years of finagling my ingredients into piles of semi-functional chaos, I’d had enough.

bjursta-extendable-table-black__73928_pe190703_s4We’ve had this really cool Ikea Bjursta Extendable Table since we moved in. It has 2 leaves that pull out to make the table larger. The problem is, we never used it for anything. Okay, that’s not true, we stored our garbage and recycling bins under it and I had my light box on top of it for a while. But recently I moved my lightbox out of the kitchen and into the dining area, and The Hubs had a brilliant idea.

MAKE IT A ROLLING CART.

Now, The Hubs is the ideas guy, and I’m the make it work girl, so between the two of us we’re pretty proud of the results. A rolling cart of this size, bought fully assembled, as sturdy as ours, would be about $400, and we’d still have to get rid of the table. Now our table has seen better days, but it’s still fully functional, so instead of throwing it away (or donating it, relax), and buying something new, we decided to save some money and make exactly what we wanted.

THE CONCEPT

What I really wanted was a rolling cart that was close to counter height so I could use it for extra counter space that would still be comfortable for chopping things (I’m 5’10+ so anything much lower is very hard on my back) and that could also store some of my larger small appliances like my KitchenAid stand mixer and food processor. The stand mixer is 18″ high, so the shelf needed to be low on the legs. This works out in terms of stability, also. After a couple of days of off and on discussion, we came up with the final design.

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Our actual table: a little dirty, but in good shape.

We’d have 1x3s attached to the front and back lengths of the table with the shelf (of yet unknown material) laying on top of the 1x3s and attached via corner braces. We’d leave the top of the table alone so we didn’t damage the mechanism that extends the table, but we’d use rubberized shelf liners and a piece of butcher block or a large cutting board as the top surface.

 

THE SUPPLIES

Our first stop was, of course, Ikea. We knew we wanted the top to be used as a work surface, and Ikea sells countertops. Plus we got the table itself at Ikea years ago (they still sell it btw). Okay, and, admittedly, we both wanted Swedish meatballs for lunch. Sue me. Anyway, after much perusing, we decided on two LÄMPLIG chopping boards.

lamplig-chopping-board__0340743_pe527634_s4These chopping boards have a lip on one side so they hang over the edge of whatever you put them on. This works out great for our design because the lip will act as a front edge to the cart and make it look like it has a much thicker piece of wood on top. We had to get two to cover the top, but the two together fit the top with just the tiniest bit of overhang.

Next we went to Lowe’s to hunt for the rest of the supplies. We started with looking for casters, and I loved these bronze ones so much we spent a little extra on them.

074523038475Next we grabbed the 1×3 and a piece of stain-ready laminated pine that was so close to the right size we couldn’t help but grab it.

20170115_124433We grabbed a hacksaw, since the cutting would be minimal, and then headed to the hardware section to find the corner braces and screws we needed. Here’s what we got:

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  • 8 corner braces (1″ x 1″ with 1 hole on each side)
  • 1 pack of 1 1/2″ wood screws to attach the 1×3 to the legs
  • Inexpensive hacksaw

Lastly we grabbed a roll of the rubberized shelf liner at Walmart. It’s a really pretty blue, which is a shame because you can’t see it in the finished product.

We also used the following tools from our tool chest:

  • A drill
  • A 1/4″ drill bit
  • A Phillips head screwdriver bit
  • A measuring tape
  • A pencil

That’s it!

THE ASSEMBLY

The very first step is MEASURING EVERYTHING PERFECTLY. I’m serious. You’ve heard the old adage “measure twice, cut once”? IT’S TRUE. DO IT. DOUBLE. CHECK. EVERYTHING. Or else you will end up sad. Friends don’t let friends be sad, mmmkay? I measured the table and, with a pencil, marked the lengths I’d need for the 1×3 and drew out the notches I’d need to cut in each corner of the laminated pine board.

Then I got cutting. I used what I had on hand as leverage for the boards: the table itself and my body weight! Cutting through the 1×3 was much easier than cutting through the laminate board, but it was still pretty easy across the board. If you were really worried about it you could sand the cuts but I wasn’t worried about it because they weren’t going to be visible. Then I dry-fitted the piece to see how I did on the cuts.

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Perfect fit!

Next up was installing the casters. As you can see from the above photo, the table has little plastic feet. These pop out and reveal a hole drilled directly down the leg. This is PERFECT because it provides guidance for the hole you’ll need for the casters. The casters we got were longer than the pre-drilled holes, so we just had to drill down another inch or two to get it long enough. I had to wiggle the drill bit around a bit because the largest bit I had was 1/4″ and we probably needed a 5/8″ bit, but that’s okay. I forgot to get a picture of this, but it’s not a difficult concept.

 

We drilled the holes and then hammered in the casters, using a piece of wood I cut off the shelf as a pressure point. NOTE: It’s actually better to drill the holes a teensy bit too big than too small, because hammering the caster in will cause the leg to split a little if it’s too small. Being slightly too big will be okay because gravity will hold them into the holes.

Next up was assembling the shelf. I recommend assembling the shelf and then attaching it to the legs, because you won’t have to worry as much about lining everything up. Using the corner braces, I attached the 1×3 to the bottom of the shelf, making sure it was centered. You don’t want to put a corner brace right where the leg will be, because you’ll need that space open to attach it to the leg itself.

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Lining it up for a dry run.
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I screwed the braces onto the 1×3 first before attaching it to the shelf.
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You can see here how I made sure the brace wasn’t aligned with the center of the leg.

I repeated this on the other side and once again gave it a dry fit.

20170115_140013The next step was to attach it to the legs. I used the 1 1/2″ screws to attach the 1x3s to the legs, making sure to measure how low I wanted the shelf to be. My KitchenAid stand mixer is 18″ tall, so I made sure the top of my shelf was a full 20″ from the bottom edge of the tabletop. I used two screws on each leg to make sure the shelf was secure.

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All attached!

By then it was time to stand this baby up!

20170115_144054At this point, technically the cart is done, but if you recall, I wanted to top it with a cutting surface, as the table’s actual surface is laminate and it bubbles when it gets wet, plus a little extra height helps for comfortable cutting. So I put a layer of shelf liner on top.

20170115_14430120170115_144457Then I set the cutting boards on top of that, making sure the lips hang over on the same side.

20170115_144627And it’s done! Nothing left to do now but to put my appliances on it and put it to work!

20170116_100605I’m so excited about my new cart!

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Maybe I should fix that curtain rod. Hrmph.

I can’t wait to try it out and show you. Maybe I’ll even do a VIDEO! *gasp*

We’ll see. 😉

Look at how much counter space I have now! (You can see what I had to work with. The space where the fruit bowl is was also holding a food processor AND the stand mixer. I cooked every meal in the tiny 30″ x 30″ space to the left of the stove.)

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Have you made anything like this that you’re super proud of? Toot your own horn in the comments!

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